Have you heard of Ho'oponopono? I'll say it again: Ho'oponopono. 

It's a Hawaiian prayer for forgiveness and release. Some people call it cord cutting. And it has become one of my favorite, go-to tools when I am feeling uncomfortable, angry, frustrated, sad, even about how an interaction with somebody has gone. Whether that person is a client, my children, my husband, a friend, my parents, and even myself. 

I've been sharing ho'oponopono with my children as well, because it is so simple! You basically just have four phrases. 

I'm sorry.
Please forgive me. 
Thank you. 
I love you. 

I'm sorry. 
Please forgive me. 
Thank you. 
I love you. 

Here's how you work those four phrases in. 

When you're feeling like there's something that is just tugging at you, some uncomfortable energy, feeling emotional, and you're ready to release it. 

And we sit there, and we say, "I just want to get rid of this, I don't want to think about it anymore." What your subconscious is hearing, what your brain is hearing is: "I need to grab onto this and hold it and squeeze it tight and not let it go." The exact opposite of what you want to do. 

But, when you're able to say, "I love you, please forgive me. I'm sorry, thank you." You're giving yourself permission to release it from a place of gratitude and love. And that makes your brain, your ego, your subconscious feel safe. 

So really simply. 

What I do is I will sit with the feeling I'll sit with the experience, I'll sit with the energy. And I'll think about what it is that I'm ready to release. 

A person who maybe said something that really triggered me. 
A client who was really sad and flustered and frustrated and, as much as I wanted to help them, maybe I wasn't able to help them. Or maybe I was able to help them but I could still feel, like I still feel like I took on their energy. 

So I sit with that vision. I remember, I put myself in that place, feeling those feelings. And then I say: 

I'm sorry. 
Please forgive me. 
Thank you. 
I love you. 

I'm sorry. 
Please forgive me. 
Thank you. 
I love you. 

And as I say it, I breathe in and out. And I imagine those words, going across space from me to the other person. And after a few moments of sitting and repeating, "I'm sorry, please forgive me. Thank you. I love you." I imagine myself cutting the cords that connect that space. Physically breaking that connection. You can even take your hands and wipe yourself. Wipe your chest, your arms, your legs, your head. 

Imagine yourself removing those cords from your body and let them fall to the floor. 

And then I imagined myself sweeping them away or sometimes if they're super, super tight, super, super painful, super, super strong. I imagine myself burning them. When you say please... when you say I'm sorry, please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. You're giving repentance. showing that you are generally generous... that you general generous... I can't even speak right now! 

That you genuinely accept responsibility for the role that you played in that interaction. 

And then you say please forgive me asking for forgiveness, showing remorse that you don't want to carry this weight anymore. 

Thank you, gratitude for having this experience and being able to learn from it and 

I Love you. It's just a way of telling your body it's okay. And telling the other person, it's okay. And I'm doing this out of love for both of us. 

And as you watch yourself, cut the cords that connect you from that experience from that emotion and sweep them away or burn them away, just notice the changes in your body. Sometimes it happens really quickly. For me, sometimes I have to do it two or three times, sometimes I have to repeat the words for several minutes. I'm sorry, please forgive me. Thank you, I love you. But almost every single time I've done it, I have just felt so much better afterwards. 

And when I watch my kids do it and sit and help them do it, I can see physical changes in their body as their chest just rises up and their shoulders go back and they just feel expansive. 

This doesn't make all the bad feelings go away; doesn't mean that this experience isn't going to come up tomorrow and you're gonna be like, oh, you know, it's not gone necessarily forever, but it's gone in that moment and next time, if it comes back, it just doesn't feel as painful. 

I'm sorry. 
Please forgive me. 
Thank you. 
I love you. 

The Ho'oponopono ritual has been practised for centuries and it's a beautiful, beautiful way to release the negative energy. Give it a try. Let me know what comes up for you and have a beautiful day.

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